Why women have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be filled with troubles, cause heartache, and other problems. Plus you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, funds, age dissimilarity, religious background, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, date married man.
Why do men have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affairs. I suppose mostly though it is just the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a short period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody are able to turn the wish on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos culture has erected against extramarital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their family, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is awfully pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your relatives or anyone else? You will need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major grouping, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel comfortable in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to think about. Your funds are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us males of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, could be caring is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have just grown distantly, our general interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Could be I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for payback and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.